Here are five important steps to get out of the anger trap:
Try to understand why you are angry. Remember, there is a difference between the normal irritations in life and a persistent state of anger.
One of the predominant causes of divorce today is negative behavior such as unkind words, abuse and constant fighting. One psychologist says that anangry confrontation can erase 20 acts of kindness. The point is, anger can cost us dearly if we do not keep it in check.
Release your anger to God in prayer. Tell God how you feel. He can handle it. Then go talk about it with a friend. Or, even the person you're angry at, if you can do it constructively. Whatever you do, don't keep your angerlocked up in your heart. Repressed anger visits in a host of emotional and relational problems.
That means to control your words and behavior. God tells us to get a grip on our tongues: "When words are many, sin is not absent. But he who keeps a tight rein on his tongue is wise" (Proverbs 10:19). Don't cross the line ofverbal or physical abuse no matter how frustrated you get. Don't justify or excuse such abusive behaviors.
As Christians, we do not have the right to remain angry. In Christ, we have given up that right. We surrender our anger to Him and forgive others as He has forgiven us. When we forgive, we are free indeed. Free from resentment, bitterness, and anger.